Great Relationships Start with You & Hard Truths
Gary John Bishop
A no-nonsense guide to getting your relationship sh!t together and finding true “LOVE UNFU*kED.”
In this Episode of The Human Upgrade™...
…you’ll learn that one of the major life upgrades you can make includes your relationships.
Personal development expert Gary John Bishop doesn’t buy into mainstream notions of what makes a happy relationship. Not 50/50 effort, not compromise, not molding yourself into what your partner wants. It’s just you and some hard truths.
What this episode is not about;
- Blame or providing communication tips
- How to change or cope with your partner and personality types
- Healing past trauma or understanding fear of commitment
Instead, you’ll get the ingredients to creating a real, lasting and profound connection with another human being.
“So there’s you, there’s the other person, and then there’s this third item called the relationship. And that part after a while tends to get pushed aside.”
Gary John Bishop
“There’s some, again, cold truths that you have to face and then really have to start to take on,” he says, “but in a way that it’s not always going to go your way. You’re not always going to get this thing flowing the way you would want it to go, but your job is to keep bringing yourself to this phenomenon in a way that’s consistent with you, who you are, what you’re about. And powerfully managing all that you might do to undermine it.”
Gary, the New York Times bestselling author of the Unfu*k book series, uses an “urban philosophy” approach that’s both simple and enlightening. In his latest book, “LOVE UNFU*kED Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together,” he puts the focus on relationships. “The quality of your relationships dictates the quality of your life,” he says in “LOVE UNFU*kED.”
This conversation gets right to the heart of what you can do to make changes that stick in all areas of your life.
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- You’re not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but you look at ontology. Can you even talk about what ontology is? – 3:24
- So you got to start the notion that you basically spend your entire life and the confines of your internal dialogue. – 6:26
- How can I play with this? How can I experiment with this? How can I explore my own human beingness from this place? And that’s been a lot of what I talk about. – 11:37
- When I started to really get my ability to shift and move and influence not only the quality of my life, but the quality of my relationships. – 18:01
- What’s the role of sex in relationships? – 20:28
- I think the greatest truth you can tell yourself in a relationship is, all right, look, let’s just stop all this nonsense. This isn’t working. – 25:21
- We have to remember in your experience of being alive as a human being, you are much more likely to honor what you said to somebody than what you say to yourself. – 32:45
- You talk about breaking up to get together in your book. – 41:14
- Human beings both crave change and resist it. They’re always at the crossroads of how can I do something new, but it’s got to be familiar? It’s got to be something based on something that I already know or think or believe to be true. – 49:20
- It’s not always going to go your way. You’re not always going to get this thing flowing the way you would want it to go, but your job is to keep bringing yourself to this phenomenon in a way that’s consistent with you, who you are, what you’re about. – 54:07