One of my favorite authors is back on the show! Neil Strauss is an award-winning, 10-time New York Times best-selling author. He was a music critic, cultural reporter, investigative journalist and columnist at The New York Times for a decade and has been a contributing editor at Rolling Stone for more than 20 years. He’s well-known for earning the trust of some of the most guarded and secretive celebrities in the world.
His life has been enthralling and complex: Remarkably insightful interviews with celebrities and musicians, award-winning journalism, successful authorship and ghostwriting, becoming a pick-up artist, reforming himself and his relationships, becoming a parent and hosting programs focused on healing trauma and transforming lives.
In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, we talk about facing fears, discomfort and anxieties—how to tell the difference among them and what we get wrong about them. That leads us to a cognitive bias called the neglect of probability. As you may know, running from failure versus moving towards success is a very different mindset.
Neil shares his fascination with how beliefs get implanted and reinforced, and offers up a theory as to why so many people go off track when they’re working on finding their passion and purpose. He says, “Do something you love enough that you care about each detail of it.” And that’s our cue to share some highlights of his intriguing new podcast—will it be called “’Gonzo?!”—that debuts this month.
More about Neil Strauss
In addition to being an author of The Game, The Truth, Emergency and other books about his own personal experiences, he’s a respected and sought-after ghostwriter. He has co-authored numerous books, such as Jenna Jameson’s How to Make Love Like a Porn Star; Mötley Crue’s, The Dirt (currently being produced by Netflix as a theatrical film); Marilyn Manson’s The Long Hard Road; and Dave Navarro’s Don’t Try This at Home. Kevin Hart’s I Can’t Make This Up: Life Lessons, entered The New York Times bestseller list at No. 1 while topping the best-selling audiobook list at the same time.
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Amazon.com: Neil’s Books
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- Why Neil wrote “The Game” 00:07:35
- Why people go off track 00:13:40
- It’s the saddest thing to see someone who can’t admit when they are wrong 00:17:30
- Would you advise people to face their fears? 00:19:25
- We go through a lot of pain to avoid pain 00:21:30
- What is probability neglect? 00:25:05
- What creates love? 00:33:30
- Big Ideas:
- How the advice “do what you love” is tricky 00:10:00
- How fear controls us 00:22:40
- What Neil’s new podcast is all about 00:27:30
- How do authors choose titles? 00:35:30
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