In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, you’ll hear from an expert psychologist who is known as an innovative thinker, trainer and speaker.
Joan Rosenberg, Ph.D., guides individuals to achieve their highest potential by helping them create, master and sustain desired life changes. Her newest book: “90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity,” puts you in control of your own emotions.
“My approach is centered on helping people experience and move through eight unpleasant feelings (or emotional states),” Joan says. “Sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, vulnerability, embarrassment, disappointment and frustration.”
Within those eight, you’ll find a commonality.
“The single most important thing I can do is to recognize someone’s pain, and just in essence, hold a mirror up to it, even if it sounds like you’re saying the things that are so obvious,” Joan says. “It has a huge impact of calming someone else’s nervous system down.”
And you’ll learn the art of productive confrontation.
“If it’s coming from a place that’s positive, kind, and well-intended, people will feel more well-understood and validated,” Joan explains. “Confrontation is one of the deepest forms of empathy.”
Joan puts it all out there and doesn’t let anyone off the hook—asking you to take a look at your life stories and then making sense of them through a series of questions that get right down into the impact and meaning of your life experiences.
Dealing with unpleasant feelings, is, well, unpleasant. So, let’s get to it and hack those emotions.
Enjoy the show!
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Book: 90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity
- Emotional Mastery 00:04:10
- Lasting confidence 00:17:10
- Most of us experience unpleasant feelings through our body 00:23:00
- What is struggle? 00:40:00
- Everything is a portal for learning 00:47:00
- Bigger Ideas:
- How to not absorb other people’s emotions 00:08:15
- Confrontation is the deepest form of empathy 00:11:55
- Are millennials “walking into a buzz saw?” 00:15:40
- The definition of confidence 00:19:30
- How quickly can you change your reactions? 00:28:00
- The difference between types of vulnerability 00:30:20
- The difference between men and women’s vulnerability 00:42:30
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