TEDxSF – Nicole Daedone Hacks the Female Orgasm

TEDxSF – Nicole Daedone – Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western WomanYouTube – TEDxSF – Nicole Daedone – Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman.

Tim Ferriss wrote about the 15 minute female orgasm in the New York Times bestselling Four Hour Body  and described Nicole Daedone’s work at OneTaste.  In this TED video, explaining how her work came about, she also illustrates how biohacking and self quantification techniques helped her arrive at a teachable form of Orgasmic Meditation.  At the end of this post, I describe some upcoming posts about orgasm and performance.

Watch the TED video above and listen to the process Nicole Daedone went through to create Orgasmic Meditation (OM).  She made an observation – a mysterious man did something to her that she didn’t expect and couldn’t explain with her existing model of orgasm.  She could have acted like most people and picked herself up, dusted herself off, and acted as if nothing had happened, but she didn’t.  She did some things that smart biohackers do.

1) She set a goal for gathering data – to figure out how to consistently have more extended spiritual orgasms.

Many people, including Quantified Self biohackers like me, are guilty of gathering data when they don’t have a good reason for it.  This is a good thing when the data gathering cost is zero and you have computing available to crunch unlimited near-meaningless data to tease out patterns.  Nicole didn’t have those things, so she set a goal and gathered data relevant to it.

2) She relied on experts and existing research to point her in the right direction.

In this case, she looked into her own interest in Zen Buddhism, mystical Judaism, and semantics.  Buddhists and Taoists are some of the original biohackers who have collected detailed accounts of biological and cognitive human behavior over generations, and boiled them down into a set of practices.  As someone who used technology to reach an advanced, Japanese, Buddhist, Zen state that normally takes 20-40 years to attain in one week, I can attest to the Buddhist awareness of orgasm and sexual energy. It’s woven throughout many Buddhist practices and texts, depending on which branch.

How hard would it have been for Nicole to invent her practice without knowing about Zen as a starting point?  Much of my biohacking would have been a waste of time if I hadn’t had existing research to help guide my data-driven efforts.

3) She tweaked, tested and measured.

She worked with, by her own account, thousands of women, tested, and refined her Orgasmic Meditation process until it was reliable. Note that she didn’t just measure, she tweaked her protocol, observed differences, and measured outcomes.  Too many data-driven types fail to tweak protocols nearly often enough, making the mistake of measuring consistently but changing too infrequently.  Nicole’s data is awesome – she can tell you more than 90% of women are most sensitive at 1:00, slightly above and to their left of the clitoris.  It’s classical Quantified Self data-gathering, applied to a most sensitive (and fun) topic.

I’m writing about Nicole’s work for several reasons, including the fact that I have done some long-term research and testing on orgasms and productivity as well as how to biohack the orgasm.

Here on The Bulletproof® Executive, you’re about to see an analysis of orgasm on productivity for both men and women. (Hint: The results are not what you think!)

Plus, why do women get 15 minute orgasms while men get “several seconds” according to Wikipedia?  Leave it to biohackers to fix the problem.  Another upcoming post will shed some light on techniques that have produced male orgasms ranging from 5 minutes to at least 8.5 minutes.

Another upcoming post will explain why I chose to not have 8.5 minute orgasms anymore, and what affect that decision had on mood and performance.




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